Why would my former boss ask me to dinner?
I am a woman and so is my ex-boss. This isn't a romantic thing by any means. I was with my previous company for 10 years, in legal. I left a few months ago for another (great) company. My former boss, who is an attorney is in town and text me this morning and asked if I would like to go to dinner to 'catch up'. While I worked under her, we never had small talk or much personal conversation. We had a strictly professional relationship. Although, I admired her and respected her. She is not why I left. I have not heard from her in 3 months and all of the sudden she wants to meet for dinner. Do you think this is just a friendly 'how are things?' or could it be something else?
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There is probably an ulterior motive. Maybe she wants you to come back? Maybe she wants to ask you about someone else from the company? Or to recommend someone for a position? She may have thought it would be nicer to make it a dinner than just a call.
I was once invited to dinner by someone who worked at my company but I didn't have much to do with her. I figured she might want to learn something from me about her career path. At the dinner I found out she wanted to know if I knew why they had not promoted her. I was annoyed by that. I probably should have asked her ahead of time if she had a particular thing she wanted to talk about. At least then I would have been prepared, tho I might have declined the invitation.
I think it is probably just a friendly gesture. But, she might want to try to persuade you to come back to work for the company or something like that. I doubt if it is anything sexual or there would have been some sign while you worked for her.
That is odd since you didn't talk to her on personal matters. Maybe the company really misses you and she may want to invite you back. Just a guess.
Go for it. You have nothing to lose.
Sounds professional on all levels. Besides, you aren't co-workers anymore.
Just maybe she wants to get you back in her company with more pay.
She could be either very nice or very mean by this gesture.